Between the Israeli assault on Lebanon and the Zionist "war on terror," the Muslim world is now center stage in every American home. I see the carnage, death and destruction that have befallen Lebanon, but I also see something else: I see you. I can't help but notice that almost every woman I see is carrying a baby or has children around her. I see that though they are dressed modestly, their beauty still shines through. But it's not just outer beauty that I notice. I also notice that I feel something strange inside me: I feel envy. I feel terrible for the horrible experiences and war crimes that the Lebanese people have suffered, being targeted by our common enemy. But I can't help but admire your strength, your beauty, your modesty, and most of all, your happiness. Yes, it's strange, but it occurred to me that even under constant bombardment, you still seemed happier than we are, because you were still living the natural lives of women. The way women have always lived since the beginning of time. It used to be that way in the West until the 1960s, when we were bombarded by the same enemy. Only we were not bombarded with actual munitions, but with subtle trickery and moral corruption. Through Temptation
They bombarded us Americans from Hollywood, instead of from fighter jets or with our own American-made tanks. They would like to bomb you in this way too, after they've finished bombing the infrastructure of your countries. I do not want this to happen to you. You will feel degraded, just like we do. You can avoid this kind of bombing if you will kindly listen to those of us who have already suffered serious casualties from their evil influence. Because everything you see coming out of Hollywood is a pack of lies, a distortion of reality, smoke and mirrors. They present casual sex as harmless recreation because they aim to destroy the moral fabric of the societies into which they beam their poisonous programming. I beg you not to drink their poison. There is no antidote for it once you have consumed it. You may recover partially, but you will never be the same. Better to avoid the poison altogether than to try to heal from the damage it causes. They will try to tempt you with their titillating movies and music videos, falsely portraying us American women as happy and satisfied, proud of dressing like prostitutes, and content without families. Most of us are not happy, trust me. Millions of us are on anti-depressant medication, hate our jobs, and cry at night over the men who told us they loved us, then greedily used us and walked away. They would like to destroy your families and convince you to have fewer children. They do this by presenting marriage as a form of slavery, motherhood as a curse, and being modest and pure as old-fashioned. They want you to cheapen yourself and lose your faith. They are like the Serpent tempting Eve with the apple. Don't bite.
Self-Value
I see you as precious gems, pure gold, or the "pearl of great value" spoken of in
The fashions coming out of the Western sewer are designed to make you believe that your most valuable asset is your sexuality. But your beautiful dresses and veils are actually sexier than any Western fashion, because they cloak you in mystery and show self-respect and confidence. A woman's sexuality should be guarded from unworthy eyes, since it should be your gift to the man who loves and respects you enough to marry you. And since your men are still manly warriors, they deserve no less than your best. Our men don't even want purity anymore. They don't recognize the pearl of great value, opting for the flashy rhinestone instead. Only to leave her too!
Your most valuable assets are your inner beauty, your innocence, and everything that makes you who you are. But I notice that some Muslim women push the limit and try to be as Western as possible, even while wearing a veil (with some of their hair showing). Why imitate women who already regret, or will soon regret, their lost virtue? There is no compensation for that loss. You are flawless diamonds. Don't let them trick you into becoming rhinestones. Because everything you see in the fashion magazines and on Western television is a lie. It is Satan's trap. It is fool's gold.
A Woman's Heart
I'll let you in on a little secret, just in case you're curious: pre-marital sex is not even that great. We gave our bodies to the men we were in love with, believing that that was the way to make them love us and want to marry us, just as we had seen on television growing up. But without the security of marriage and the sure knowledge that he will always stay with us, it's not even enjoyable! That's the irony. It was just a waste. It leaves you in tears.
Speaking as one woman to another, I believe that you understand that already. Because only a woman can truly understand what's in another woman's heart. We really are all alike. Our race, religion or nationalities do not matter. A woman's heart is the same everywhere. We love. That's what we do best. We nurture our families and give comfort and strength to the men we love. But we American women have been fooled into believing that we are happiest having careers, our own homes in which to live alone, and freedom to give our love away to whomever we choose. That is not freedom. And that is not love.
Only in the safe haven of marriage can a woman's body and heart be safe to love. Don't settle for anything less. It's not worth it. You won't even like it and you'll like yourself even less afterwards. Then he'll leave you.
Self-Denial
Sin never pays. It always cheats you. Even though I have reclaimed my honor, there's still no substitute for having never been dishonored in the first place. We Western women have been brainwashed into thinking that you Muslim women are oppressed. But truly, we are the ones who are oppressed; slaves to fashions that degrade us, obsessed with our weight, begging for love from men who do not want to grow up. Deep down inside, we know that we have been cheated.
We secretly admire and envy you, although some of us will not admit it. Please do not look down on us or think that we like things the way they are. It's not our fault. Most of us did not have fathers to protect us when we were young because our families have been destroyed. You know who is behind this plot.
Don't be fooled, my sisters. Don't let them get you too. Stay innocent and pure. We Christian women need to see what life is really supposed to be like for women. We need you to set the example for us, because we are lost. Hold onto your purity. Remember: you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube. So guard your "toothpaste" carefully!
I hope you receive this advice in the spirit in which it is intended: the spirit of friendship, respect, and admiration. From your Christian sister – with love… | |
* This article is republished with the kind permission of the author. The original can be found onCrescent and the Cross. Joanna Francis is a writer and journalist. She manages her ownblog. |
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The sheikh's statementCredit goes to my sister Shabia A.M. and brother Shiraz Ali-Patel (secretary of MUIS 2006) for extracting the respective letters. Jazakumullahu khayr.
>>> 31Oct06
>>> In full of a statement issued last night by Sheik Taj Aldin
>>> Alhilali entitled ``Explanatory Statement by the Mufti El-Hilali
>>> regarding the recent media campaign'':
>>> I would like to outline clearly and plainly some of the facts and
>>> basics that formulate my faith, belief and my understanding of the
>>> teachings of the true religion of Islam.
>>> 1. The crime of rape against any woman is an abominable crime; it
>>> has no justification, and the perpetrator deserves the severest
>>> punishment and would not deserve to belong to a religion or to
>>> humanity.
>>> 2. Women in Australia or any other western society are free to wear
>>> what they like, and no Muslim has the right to dictate the rulings
>>> of his religion on others. While non-Muslim women can cover or
>>> reveal whatever they choose of their bodies, Islamic Shari'a made
it
>>> incumbent upon Muslim men to lower their gaze. It is prohibited for
>>> them to stare at the beauty of strange women.
>>> 3. It is my duty as a religious leader to advise Muslim women to
>>> adhere to and abide by the Islamic dress code. Having said that,
>>> Muslim women are free to comply with or reject my advice, and their
>>> reckoning will be with Allah the Almighty.
>>> 4. By saying the "exposed meat" displayed in a degrading way is a
>>> simile for a woman making herself subject to abuse by men with
>>> diseased souls whose animalistic instincts will overcome them
>>> whereby they would abandon their humanity, mind and religion. These
>>> men are responsible for their crime.
>>> 5. The metaphor I used of the "exposed meat" was not appropriate
for
>>> the western mentality. It has been quoted and misinterpreted by
some
>>> groups with ill intentions. This metaphor was used in a private
>>> lesson given inside the mosque after the Taraweeh (optional night)
>>> prayers on the fourth day of Ramadan. It was meant for the Muslim
>>> attendees at the mosque and not the general public and particularly
>>> not the general women of our Australian society.
>>> Apart from the above-mentioned facts, I would like to make it known
>>> to all my brothers and sisters in and out of Australia that:
>>> After the Taraweeh (optional night) prayers on 27/09/2006 at the
>>> Lakemba Mosque in Sydney, Australia, I gave a lesson to the members
>>> of the Islamic community of Australia, the title of which was: "Why
>>> did Allah, the Almighty, mention 'man' before 'woman' in the crime
>>> of theft? as is quoted in the Quran: ((As for) the thief, the male
>>> and the female, ...) (Al-Ma-idah 5.38) while he mentioned 'woman'
>>> before 'man' in the crime of adultery?, as is quoted in the Quran:
>>> (The woman and the man found guilty of adultery or fornication,...)
>>> (An-Nur 24.2)".
>>> This lesson lasted approximately 15 minutes, 10 minutes of these
>>> were spent on explaining the meaning of the first verse, and the
>>> remaining time was spent on giving advice and guidance relating to
>>> the way a woman dresses and the methods of seduction and the beauty
>>> given to her by the Almighty Allah. I emphasised that exceeding the
>>> limits in this regard is dangerous to both men and women; and that
>>> the devil exploits these charms of seduction to tempt both men and
>>> women to commit adultery and fornication. In this case, both men
and
>>> women are committing a sin. So the topic did not deal with the
crime
>>> of rape.
>>> At the end of the lesson when I was explaining the reason why
>>> 'woman' was mentioned before 'man' in the verse dealing with the
>>> crime of adultery, I said it was because she possessed the charm,
>>> the methods of seduction and all similar devices given to her by
>>> Allah to tempt the man. For that I borrowed a metaphor used by an
>>> author called Ar-Rifa'i. He said exposing the meat in an illicit
way
>>> would encourage the cats to devour it. I didn't mean by that to
>>> humiliate immodest women; I meant to censure the person who would
>>> abandon his humility and turn into a vicious animal; and there's a
>>> big difference between a cat's behaviour and that of a human's, as
>>> the latter is commanded and responsible for their actions.
>>> I confess that this analogy is inappropriate and unacceptable for
>>> the Australian society and the western society in general.
>>> I am deeply saddened and distressed by the acts of some devious
>>> groups which lurk in the dark watching me, and who cannot tolerate
>>> the moderate, balanced way which I adopt to advocate for women's
>>> issues, national harmony and co-existence, and to hold fast to the
>>> love of our Australian home, to protect it from all forms of
extreme
>>> thoughts and to reject all acts of violence and any act that
>>> breaches the rule of law.
>>> Yes, I feel deeply saddened that such an ordinary lesson has been
>>> used to slander and defame me after it had been translated with the
>>> ill intention of dubious media that wishes to incite and they
>>> present an unfair campaign, the aims of which are very well known.
>>> Once again, I turn to all the women of Australia and the world. You
>>> are the shining lights of the world, you are more than half of the
>>> society, and you are the daughters, the sisters, the mothers and
the
>>> aunts. How could any sane person think of humiliating you?
>>> You are the cherished pearls, the dearest thing in the world. So
>>> don't be taken as offerings at the temples of the merchants of
>>> pleasure, or advocates of decadence and corruption.
>>> Each one of us is responsible for accounting for his or her own
>>> actions before he or she is asked about them by the almighty Allah
>>> (on the Day of Judgment). Once again I am very sorry and apologise
>>> for what resulted from an unintentional analogy.
>>> With all my respect to the women of the world.
>>> In due course I will take the necessary decision that shall lift
the
>>> pressures that have been placed on our Australian Muslim community
>>> and that which will benefit all Australians.
>>> The pressure of the last couple of days has had an obvious effect
on
>>> my health and well-being. I ask the public to give my family and I
>>> some privacy, time and space to recover. I have also asked for
>>> indefinite leave from my duties at Lakemba mosque.
>>> Sincerely,
>>> Sheikh Taj El-Deen El-Hilali
>>> Mufti Of Australia
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